If we looked at life purpose on a smaller scale, how do you think that would affect the way we’re living each day? Would you even allow a little time in your schedule to work on it? I have two questions to guide you to answers.
In case you missed it
In my last
post I asked 3 insightful questions pertaining to our life purpose: What was it that blindsided you to lose
sight? What are you putting into your mind that effects your actions? What
motivates you? Life purpose is an enormous and sometime’s sensitive topic
to undertake. Many times people make it more complicated than it needs to
be…I’m guilty of that…however when we break it down into smaller discoveries
our own individual purpose has a chance to bloom.
in Matthew 22:30-31 that the greatest commandment was to: Love
the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your
mind and with all your strength.’ The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor
How to understand Love.
The question of “What is love?”comes into being here. Golly, love is another massive topic! This is probably why ‘life purpose’ can be complicated. There are many different facets of love. According to the ancient Greeks there are eight different kinds: Unconditional, Romantic, Affectionate, Self-love, Familiar Love, Enduring, Playful, and Obsessive Love. But when it comes to life purpose which one of those ‘loves’ is greater? What one will people remember most? What one will have the biggest impact on your life and others?
If there is anyone who knows how to educate us on life purpose it’s Rick Warren, Pastor of Saddleback Church. He wrote “Purpose Driven Life” and “What On Earth Am I Here For?” Excellent reads. Over 50 million copies have been sold. He goes to the Bible on this topic and gives understanding in a down to earth approach. Pastor Rick says, “When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of their life that you will never get back.”
The ultimate hack to life purpose
gives us a clue to life purpose. It’s TIME. The greatest gift you can give
someone is your time, says Rick. Time is the most precious aspect of life,
because without time, we don’t exist. Yet, without love we feel
like we don’t exist. And when we feel like we don’t exist, we lose sight of our
identity and become somebody we’re not meant to be. This is some pretty deep
stuff, but this piece of our lives is more important than anything else.
Because it’s love that gives us life and
giving your time is love. In 1 Corinthians 13:13 Paul says, “And now these three
remain: faith, hope, and love. But the greatest of these is love.”
Gosh, what does that look like? I could go into the “Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman, but he does a better job at explaining it than I do. Again, another must read for strengthening relationships and understanding love. Let’s switch gears for a minute to get more clues.
Two questions for your life purpose:
1- What do you already know that you were made to do? Think about what you’re really good at. What do you do in-which you lose track of time because you’re enjoying yourself so much? What exercises your gifts and skills? If you don’t know, ask someone to help you. Look back on your life or even your day and write down the things that gave you joy and a sense of meaning. It doesn’t need to be big events or accomplishments, it can be as small as producing a smile from a store clerk. My recommendation is to check out this book “S.H.A.P.E” see if there are any clues that surface. It’s actually really fun.
2- What audience do you connect with
generations, middle aged, or seniors? You could go further with demographics but
think about the people you have a heart for, or that you can relate to, or that
stimulates your emotions. This helps you find ‘your people’ to love on.
What is life purpose?
The way I see it is if we made someone else’s day a little brighter by giving them our time and gifted touch, then we lived our purpose for that day. In other words, Life purpose is loving others with your time while using your God-given gifts. Ask your Creator to give you more clues on moving forward with your life purpose, but don’t be afraid to step out in faith. This is not a destination, it’s a daily practice. I hope I got you thinking. Below are the books I mentioned.
Life purpose is an enormous topic. The best way to approach it is step-by -step. Many of us think that when we figure it out, we’ll have this euphoric experience; I know I have thought so, but it isn’t necessarily like that. ‘Purpose’ is truly a passion of mine. And my goal is help people navigate their way to ‘meaning’. This is by no means a blog post to answer life purpose, gosh, I can’t answer that; but today you will get a good start on figuring it out.
There is no special timing on diving in on this topic, but this time of year is strange. When I did a keyword search on the word “purpose”, the month of November was the highest month people searched for it. Maybe it’s because summer-fun is over and winter holidays are coming? I don’t know. So how do we get our drive back?
thing we’re going to want to ask is: what
does purpose mean to me? Let me help you by narrowing it down by category. What
area do you feel you need more purpose?
You may have more than one answer, that’s okay, it’s normal. Just write down the most pressing and ask yourself these three insightful questions:
The Blindside – Question 1
What was it that blindsided you? When we get stuck, there is something that caused us to get off the road. We just don’t get stuck from nothing. Identify what contributed to where you are now. Was it an illness, a loss of a loved one, a financial dropout, a divorce, an injury, abuse, car accident, demotion, addiction, or a career change?
When we can identity what
happened and when it happened, we’ll get a better understanding of the mind
shift that occurred.
Knowing this information we can now approach our immobilization with a
different tactic to free ourselves of the muck. And most of the time that is
with the opposite effect you felt. For instance, if an illness changed your
game, wellness and good health need to fill that hole. If abuse was the factor,
love and trust come heal the wound. Here’s the money of it all: we must not let the event win. Our goal
is to use the event to better ourselves and others. God never wastes a hurt.
The Mind Games – Question 2
With this being said, let’s get started to overcome. Paying attention to our thinking is a huge jumpstart. Rick Warren says, “The way you think determines the way you feel, and the way you feel determines the way you act.” This is so true.
Question 2 is:What are you putting into your mind? Are you replaying the trigger? Watching the news? Listening to BS? How is what you’re hearing and watching affecting how you treat others? How is it impacting your health?
If you want
to feel better, that’s right, you need
to want to feel better, then replace what you put in your mind with
better memories, positive shows, good conversations and amazing music. Part 2
of 2 is when we start working on the mind, we can begin working on the body. I’m
an advocate for a healthy body, a happy size, and a simple menu. When we look
good, we feel good and that’s motivation in itself. But it first begins in your
head. If you want to learn an easy way to do this without the overwhelm, enroll
in the My Wellness Way course today.
The Stimulant – Question 3
Speaking of motivation. What motivates you? When I’m done sulking in my stuck-ness…yes, its okay to have a pity party but for only one day…1 DAY! As for motivation I need something or someone to motivate me to move. Self-motivation is a hard thing to do. It’s not impossible it’s just harder to train for the marathon, stick to the diet, meet the work goals, go after the dreams, etc. If you can’t find someone to hold you accountable or to keep you on track, turn to motivational speakers. Here are two short videos I thought you might like:
Okay, so we
know what area we want to work in. We know what our turning point was. We know
that our mind plays a big role in moving forward. Let’s shift and ask what is missing in all these things?
The Foundation of Purpose
please: Do you see what is missing? Even if you think you know, look under that
In 1 John 4:8, John says “God is love.” Whether you’re conscious of it or not. Love is the bottom line. Love for ourselves, love for others, and the love to embrace our gifts to make things happen. God created you out of love and wants you pass it on. Do you see it? Think about that for a minute.
that leaves a legacy. Look at Mother Teresa, John Muir, Nelson Mandela, and the
people who have influenced you in your life. They didn’t spend their time on
you because they were selfish, they poured into you out of love. I’ll leave you
that to think about. Until next time, answer those questions and ask God to
reveal a clue to your unique path.